Workshop II

Our Workshop II – for training those that will train potential mentors (& developing a deeper understanding for any that are interested)

Prerequisites:

1. Workshop I or,
2. Previous structured mentoring experience to other couples or,
3. Formal education to share in the fields of psychology.
4. A basic demonstrated understanding of most of the below topics.

At the end of this class you will have a grasp of the following from Workshop I & will have a good scripturally based answer to give to any potential mentor trainees you may have in the future HOW they answer these questions themselves given tools/scripture/books/and peer group contacts they’ve become familiar with :

• What is Marriage Mentoring? (1:17)
• Why is Marriage Mentoring important? (0:47)
• Is Marriage Mentoring an alternative to Marriage Ministry? (1:01)
• What is the Marriage Mentoring Triad? (1:17)
• What’s involved in the “Prepare” side of the Triad? (1:58)
• What’s involved in the “Repair” side of the Triad? (1:43)
• What’s the “Maximum” side of the Triad? (1:22)
• What’s the time commitment to becoming a Marriage Mentor? (1:30)
• Mentor Community Welcome (1:21)
• Do I need to be a professional to be a Marriage Mentor? (1:27)
• As a pastor, how do I launch a Marriage Mentoring ministry? (1:18)
• Our young couple is repeatedly canceling our evenings at the last minute. We want to be supportive but should we say something to them about it? (2:45)
• We like our mentorees, but the wife is very chatty and the husband is content to let her do the talking for the both of them. How do we get to know him too? (1:29)
• Our couple is going through a rough time financially and asked to borrow money from us. What should we do? (1:12)
• When we signed up to be Marriage Mentors, we thought it was for newly married couples. Somehow we got assigned to a couple that has serious problems and we are in over our head. Is it possible to get reassigned? (1:13)
• Our mentorees are great whenever the topic is fun and lighthearted. We all have a fun and pleasant time. But when the subject is more heavy, you can cut the tension with a knife. Is there anything we can do to make those times more tolerable for everyone? (1:51)
• As mentors, how do we address sex? (1:36)
• As mentors, there are times when my spouse and I are not at our best and irritated with the other and we have a pre-arranged time with our mentorees. What’s the best approach during those times? (1:32)
• We are not sure how far we should go trying to influence our couple when we see them making a decision that we believe is a mistake? Do we risk making them mad by trying to explain it to them further? (1:36)
• How long do we do mentor with a couple? (1:01)
• Our couple claims to be Christian but we have seen enough of their lives that we have reason to doubt it. We have tried to include more prayer and Scripture in our time together but it hasn’t seemed to help. We don’t want to let them down in this area we feel is so important for their marriage and family. What else can we do? (2:18)
• Should we use Marriage Mentoring as a seeker oriented outreach? (1:12)
• We have been mentoring our couple for 5 months. Unfortunately, we are not bonding with them. I think it feels like an appointment to all of us. Should we have an open discussion about it and release them to find new mentors they might have more in common with? (1:08)
• When we go out, our mentoree couple has the expectation that we will pick up the tab. They are a young family and we probably don’t mind, but we missed that somewhere in the training. Is there a financial expectation of mentors? (1:05)
• Do you recommend Marriage Mentoring in a small group? (1:15)
• Sometimes it is difficult to know how much advice we should be giving our couple. We are not professional counselors and we are sometimes overwhelmed with the information they share with us. Where do we draw the line? (1:26)
• We are mentoring a couple who has experienced infidelity. How can we address this intense subject not having personal experience? (1:06)
• I often feel when we are discussing home life, that our couple will tell us what they think we want to hear rather than be real with us. How do we get them to trust us and be themselves? (1:55)
• We hear so much about our mentoree’s parents that I would like to meet them. My husband thinks it would be awkward. Is this an ok thing for mentors to do? (1:05)
• Our mentorees have a 2 yr old and a 4 yr old. The children are continually interrupting our time together and their parents allow and even encourage their behavior. How do we ensure that we get quality time with the parents without hurting their feelings regarding their children? (1:24)
• The couple we are mentoring calls us whenever they get in a little fight, day or night. How can we politely tell them to stop? (1:30)
• In marriage mentoring, should we be mentoring them on how to be better parents? (1:15)
• We are having trouble with the couple we are mentoring. The husband uses terrible language and says he tries to control it but can’t. His wife says the only thing we can do is have a sense of humor about it. He works construction so he hears foul language all day. We just cringe, especially when he takes the Lord’s name in vain. What can we do? Should we separate? (1:45)
• The couple we are mentoring invited their friends along to our last get together. How can we get the point across that we want our time to be spent with just them? (1:02)
• We have run out of ideas what to do with our mentoree couple. Do you have any suggestions? (2:15)
• 51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors (0:46)
• The husband in the young couple we are mentoring confessed to my husband that he had an affair and his wife doesn’t know. We are lost what to do now. If he won’t tell her, should we? (3:11)
• Should our mentoree mentor another couple at the same time? (0:42)
• We are interested in being Marriage Mentors. Can we do the Marriage Mentoring training on our own or should we do it in a class? (0:42)
• The door you have to open in order for the mentoring relationship to flourish (2:02)
• What it’s like to walk or climb into another couples shoes (2:05)
• Don’t just ask questions, ask the “right” questions (1:31)
• What to expect when the unexpected question is asked (1:55)
• Mentoring effectively doesn’t mean we mentor perfectly; making mistakes is part of the process (3:15)