the highest percentage of people ages 20 to 28 who consider themselves “highly satisfied” with their lives are married, as opposed to single or cohabiting. What’s more, the largest number of women who described their marriage as “very happy” tied the knot when they were 24 to 26. A 2010 study found that “the greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25.”……..
I found an excerpt from the below linked article to be nearly self evident. A wedding I attended in recent years had the biggest/ fanciest reception I’d ever been too. $10k more than I paid for my first house was the drop if I recall, country club, live band, exquisite desserts in the affair. I remember distinctly sensing at the time the effort in planning their party, but how much on their marital purpose? I also recall a couple humble weddings I attended at about the same time. Church reception, modest decor, etc, the focus was necessarily on the couple. That couple had and still does share a ministry, and now a new baby! The ‘fancy wedding couple’ ? They had many more fun gatherings I hear but have sadly gone separate ways.
While diamonds may be forever, marriages that begin with expensive bling are less likely to last long term, according to a recent study from Emory University. In the research, two economics professors polled 3,000 American adults who were presently or had previously been married, discovering that individuals who spend serious cash on engagement rings and the wedding ceremony were more likely to get divorced.
This week I heard someone note how their criteria for a mate was ‘money’. Another comment was ‘I should divorce, what do I need (him/her) for ?’
- Really? These folks might want to dwell on some Ecclesiastes wisdom. Even the Buddhist background from which they come can appreciate such wise ponderings from Solomon.
While marriages isn’t always what its ‘quacked up to be’, don’t ‘duck your responsibilities’.
What do you look for in a partner. A life ministry supporter? If you are seeking ‘what will that person add to me’ you may be better to consider ‘how can we add to each others service for the Kingdom’. Christ brought a gift of sacrifice to his bride (us, the church body). Thus, a gift of sacrifice to your bride as bridegroom, a spirit of acceptance as bride.
- your lust,
- your greed,
- your pride,
- your power,
- your desire to control,
- your temper,
- your patience,
- and every area of temptation that the Bible clearly talks about. It demands the quality of commitment that Jesus demonstrates in His relationship to us.”
“Let your devotional life be the beacon that guides you through the tough terrain you will face.”
“Just as strength is a man’s charm, so charm is a woman’s strength.”
“Love is as much a question of the will as it is of the emotion. And if you will (choose) to love somebody, you can.”
My cousin is no longer the lil gal that graced my folks wedding in 1953.
Lookin good cousin Sal.
Believe everything you hear and most of what you see (or not).
Fake news is all the rage. But what about ‘gossip’, what about ‘first go to the person…’ ?
What effect does it have on your marriage when you introduce ‘well so `n so says that …’ or ‘you know what ____ thinks ?’ I usually say ‘I’m less interested in ‘what they think’ and more interested in if I start and end with The Word when I act. Everything else will have to take care of itself.
Yes, the photo is a mock up, a fake.
A great church friend says: “Be careful what you tell others about your husband (wife), it may the the only picture others have to understand who your spouse is.” My paraphrase is, every time you tell me about another person and the content of what you tell me, from this I know how you represent me to others.
Come share whats in ‘your toolbox’.
We meet at members homes and their churches each week during the school year and 1x/month during the summer.
2 hr & 15 min sessions go like this: Each segment is optional and you are free to come/go as you are able.
- 6:15-6:30 Snacks to pass.
- Hosts do not bring anything. Others, when you confirm attendance specify ‘healthy snack/ drink/ unhealthy snack/ plates, naps, cups’ so others can pick something else.
- 6:30 – 7:15 Open presentations.
- Optional participation – In the round share the resource/ book/ tip you have. Be as creative as you’d like. Photos from ‘way back when’ ?, a couple in need that we can help, an activity, place or group you’ve found that would support marital efforts.
- Also will include ‘special invited guests’ – who would you like to nominate ?
- 7:30 – 8:30 Curriculum.
- 12 weeks starting 2/14: We are currently going thru http://www.marriagementoring.com/ material in a structured ‘facilitator with your feedback & input’ format.
Tuesday evenings starting 2/21.
What Is a Marriage Mentor?
“What I need is someone to talk to who has walked down the path ….” … offer the distance and objectivity that a mentor gives. A mentor is not:
- a mother or father.
- a friend.
- “on call” for every little crisis.
- a know-it-all.
- committed long-term.
Often its said PPD affects women, but drives men away. But it also causes many women to look outside for excitement as a temporary fix. This, I’ve witnessed as a force that leads the wife, not husband, to end the marriage.
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Everyone reading this will face God one day. Scriptural reality will be that sin requires repentance after requesting forgiveness. Its naive if you think this doesn’t apply to you. It applies to me, it applies to everyone. But you deal with self, God deals with others (truth alert: we will be judged by the standard we judge.)
Note I’ve included scripture so you can take God’s word for it. So yes, repentance actually requires a turning.
Are you following God’s plan after you’ve seen how sin affects your life, more importantly the lives of others about you, and MOST importantly your submission and admiration to the Lordship of Christ in your life ? How do you facilitate ‘change’ for troublesome behaviors ?
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“The Art of Mentoring: Transforming Lives Through Personal Relationships”
|Monday||“Mentoring: How to Invest Your Life in Others”||Watch|
|Tuesday||“Jesus and Paul: How Did They Do It?”||Watch|
|Wednesday||“Male and Female Differences in the Mentoring Process – Part 1”||Watch|
|Thursday||“Male and Female Differences in the Mentoring Process – Part 2”||Watch|
|Friday||“Seven Practical Steps in Mentoring Individuals and Groups”||Watch|