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From Brown City Camp[1]

Eastman Tabernacle – Courtney Richards
The Art of Mentoring: Transforming Lives Through Personal Relationships”
Day Title Media
Monday “Mentoring: How to Invest Your Life in Others” Watch
Tuesday “Jesus and Paul: How Did They Do It?” Watch
Wednesday “Male and Female Differences in the Mentoring Process – Part 1” Watch
Thursday “Male and Female Differences in the Mentoring Process – Part 2” Watch
Friday “Seven Practical Steps in Mentoring Individuals and Groups” Watch
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Oh be careful little eyes what you see…

Pastor was right. There are many books in the book store – many that seem to have DSC05702‘Christian’ titles and themes. Watch out ! Not all writers have the anointing of God on their pen.

Look at who the publisher is. Look at who has the back page endorsements – can you trust the sources ? And most of all, ‘test’ the words, as you would any thoughts, against what you know to be Gods word. If you don’t know Gods word well enough to do that – put down the book and spend another 5 yrs studying scripture.

Here’s my review I just posted on Amazon about a book claiming that the Bible does not have a good perspective on marriage and sex and is full of secret contradictions … really ? In fact, Christ is pictured as the bridegroom of the church. Further, an engagement is seen as a very sacred promise, a time during which the bride prepares for her household and the groom prepares the place of abode. There exists many such beautiful metaphorical illustrations.DSC05703

  • The writer seems to feel the audience is mostly uninformed in greater biblical study. This seemingly is sadly taken advantage of. Many excellent scriptural texts have been excluded and much of the Hebrew scriptures are taken out of context. Gods Word is a work of artistic perfection, and like any other art work, one has a greater appreciation for the end product if the entire work and process is examined. Some of scripture is poetry, some prophecy, some proverbs, some parable, some simply historical narrative, some law that has now been fulfilled in Christ, some epistle. Any given ‘scriptural sentence’ is bound to be misunderstood if the entire work is not taken as a whole. Imagine seeing a few random lines in a play and extrapolating from there. There is so much more to Gods depth than the conclusions drawn therein. Blessings

Further reading:

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After 63 years of marriage, couple dies 20 minutes apart

“Mom and dad were Christians. They loved Christ. They wanted so badly to show their love for Christ that they loved one another. It’s natural what they do. For them to be able to be a witness in life, also in death, that’s cool. Really cool.”

When he passed, the clock on the walls battery stopped at the exact same time… 

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Speaking with words of our Lord

Just saw a post re: ‘Be yourself’. Nice bumper sticker or t-shirt, but how often do we quote ‘the world’ who has no infinite wisdom when we could quote Christ whom has it all ?

When believers default to ‘sayings’, colloquialisms and euphemisms, so much gets lost. The deliverer is thinking one thing, the hearer another.

What if our ‘sayings’ where the ‘boring scripture quotes’ my grandmother always spoke in ?


I really miss hearing her speak only wisdom – perhaps why she was named ‘Pearl’.

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Like Chip & Joanna Gaines of Fixer Upper, remember to seek wise counsel.

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Like Chip & Joanna Gaines of Fixer Upper, I recommend you seek wise counsel ‘and all these things shall be added unto you’ says Biblical scripture.

In my business, when there is more that 1 person as part of the buyer / seller / ownership package, I take just as seriously the ‘non-financial aspects’ of the transaction. A move is a top stress item per every counseling material you read and study. Since its part of my business, I’ve studied family counseling materials for decades, taken counseling workshops (outside of my profession) and consumed countless hours of programming relating to, well, relating.

I think these kids have it right in the interview link. When the purpose is shared jointly and above either of you, the ‘team’ approach brings you together, not in competition with each other.


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Going to work on houses ? Work on relationship first.

Many times I’ve actually discourage married couples from building new, buying a fixer upper, or ‘taking a shot’ and investing. Why? Because financial stress can devastate a home and I’ll not take a commission at the expense of a marriage. Yes, I’ve even studied family counseling for years because of the stress that comes with large life changes – like real estate transactions! So I found this very refreshing – just saw this article about how these folks have a date night each week with no business allowed.

I think I’ve heard this story before, they like to rehab homes, he can move the walls, she can add the flair, they don’t do TV but prioritize Christ. Wasn’t sure whether to put this on my site or on our mentoring page.
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Words have meanings, please use them correctly

I realize this is my own amateur opinion. With that disclaimer I’m both NoahWebster180[1]giving and retracting my views all in one fell swoop. Huh? I’ll explain:

I’ve seen countless examples of family, spousal for example, communications take a hurtful toll over time due to the over use of confusing jargon. Sarcasm, for example, can be especially non productive when emotions or any stress level is involved. How do you know what your spouse is feeling on a subject deep down ? Whats ‘quippy’ and ‘cute’ to you may only be making the other persons view point seem of marginal value. Take the following for excerpt for example from Webster’s wiki.

In the early 1960s, Webster’s Third came under attack for its “permissiveness” and its failure to tell people what proper English was. It was the opening shot in the culture wars, as conservatives detected yet another symbol of the permissiveness of society as a whole and the decline of authority, as represented by the Second Edition.[25] As historian Herbert Morton explained, “Webster’s Second was more than respected. It was accepted as the ultimate authority on meaning and usage and its preeminence was virtually unchallenged in the United States. It did not provoke controversies, it settled them.” Critics charged that the [Webster’s Third] dictionary was reluctant to defend standard English, for example entirely eliminating the labels “colloquial”, “correct”, “incorrect”, “proper”, “improper”, “erroneous”, “humorous”, “jocular”, “poetic”, and “contemptuous”, among others.[26]

No compare to

In 1807 Webster began compiling a fully comprehensive dictionary, An American Dictionary of the English Language; it took twenty-eight years to complete. To evaluate the etymology of words, Webster learned twenty-six languages, including Old English (Anglo-Saxon), Greek, Hebrew and Latin.

Noah Webster was a Christian and famously said “Education is useless without the Bible.” His dictionary contains seventy thousand words and over six thousand Bible references and remains one of the only mainstream dictionaries to use Bible references to demonstrate the meaning of words. His dictionary is an essential tool for anyone studying the Bible.

Christian readers will find it rewarding to compare his definitions of such words as “marriage”, “education”, “sin”, “law”, “faith”, “prayer”, etc., with those given in any modern dictionary.loving-god-withallofyourheart-ha8022215-14-638

He worked hard to use scripture as a base for word meanings.

Think about the old saying ‘its not funny if only one person is laughing’. Better yet, think about the scriptural passage “But let yourYesbe ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” Matt 5:37


9dfa364d5f5ed011c60a0851b00bc629[1]…that’s just how I see it.