Posted in Growing couples, New couples, Tools for Couples


3. Go on regular date nights
4. Hide notes in secret places
5. Go to bed at the same time
6. Listen to music together-share ear-buds
7. Buy him gifts he will love
8. Revitalize the romance with intimate dates
9. Wear shirts that tell the world you love your spouse
10. Praise your spouse to other people
11. Read a marriage devotional
12. Sleep in his t-shirts
13. Renew your vows privately with whispers and memories
14. Renew them publicly with cake and bubbly
15. Go away together at least once a year

For Women Only
16. Hang pictures of the two of you around your house
17. Make his favorite dessert
18. Make sex a priority
19. Spend time apart occasionally
20. Learn to enjoy something he loves
21. Surprise each other
22. Meet him at the door
23. Text each other from across the room
24. Set reminders on your phone to remember him/her throughout the week
25. Call him right now and tell him you appreciate him

For Men Only
26. Leave work on time and come home early
27. Engage every day in meaningful conversation
28. Compliment each other
29. Take one day a month to make your spouse your total focus
30. Argue fair: avoid these words “you always” and “you never”
31. Kiss every day
32. Find tangible ways to serve your mate without complaining
33. Forgive quickly
34. Be honest.
35. Get on the same page: plan your budget together
36. Look your best as often as you can
37. Guard your marriage
38. Laugh together
39. When you are together-BE TOGETHER (take a break from phones, technology, etc)
40. Tell her she’s pretty, especially when she’s not feeling it

41. Make each other breakfast in bed
42. Do her chores for her
44. Get a couple’s massage or host your own privately
44. Dance together-soft music (both of you alone) or rocking music with the kids
45. Exercise together- hikes, bike riding, etc
46. Choose not to be annoyed by an irritating behavior/disappointment from your spouse
47. Thank your spouse often even for the least reason or gesture
48. Lay in bed together and stare into each other eyes, without talking
49. Learn something new together-take an art class, cooking lessons, etc
50. Leave a sweet comment on the Facebook wall
51. Support each other’s goals
52. Bring her flowers/gifts (even when she says they are too expensive)
53. Wear something your spouse loves
54. Share furniture-sit in his lap
55. Fight for your marriage
56. Make a point to eat dinner together most days of the week.
57. Never let your spouse feel like they come second place to your career or any other thing.
58. Talk about your dreams and aspirations. Be supportive of each other and dream big together!
59. Maintain a united front as your motto: Meaning- “Me and you against the world.
60. Speak well of your spouse

Posted in Growing couples, Tools for Couples

For the toolbox

In case you haven’t found links elsewhere on this site, I’m reviewing one of many of my “toolbox for the Christian life” must haves:

Ravi Zacharias

Let My People Think Daily Radio

One of the most articulate Christian Apologists in the world today, Indian-born, Canadian-American travels the world lecturing and debate at public universities and the like. A treasure trove of audio files on topics that challenge you when challenged by others.

Ravi Zacharias at his best – YouTube

Posted in Couples in Challenge, Growing couples

You need space – just don’t use those words

Its the opinion of an article’s author that men & women need space. They should:

  • acknowledge and plan for it in specific terms,
  • should disclose the specifics about what they do during such time,
  • will have differing space needs based on childhood nurturing styles, should keep such time to an “as needed” max.,
  • must realize if such time is not planned for it will be taken in a physical and/or emotionally offensive way creating counter productive distance,
  • women need space more oft then men,
  • and expect to reap rewards because of time for refreshment !

Here’s the WSJ article.

Naturally, any human advice must be filtered with scripture. Here’s some ideas, what would you ad ?

  • “…But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15 (a good place to start )
  • “…Do not withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so just for a set time, in order to devote yourselves to prayer.” 1 Corinthians 7:5

Posted in Growing couples

Men share the subtleties that they swoon for

  • “The best words my wife can say? ‘Hey, I have a great night planned. Put on something nice and let’s go!’
  • “My wife works from home and often wears pajamas all day. But sometimes I’ll get home and she’s dressed up just to have dinner with me. I love that even though she sees me every day, she doesn’t take me or our time together for granted.”
  • “My wife will occasionally wear this old shirt of mine, in so many ways it draws me in seeing her connecting like that.”

The extra warmth the little and frequent things do to deepen your life journey together create priceless memories, p

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If you want a “Soul Mate”, actively pursue

As the webmaster, I’m posting an excerpt as a reminder of what a counselor once told me – that all the time he sees gals that he could be tempted to trade for that are interested in him – but he has a commitment before God and man. ., P

The soul mate concept carries with it the belief that a perfect person exists for us, if only we could find him or her — then love and life would be easy. This belief has created a lot of trouble for people, especially in the area of commitment. By insisting on finding a perfect partner, many people have walked away from really great potential partners. Why? Because something was missing. Maybe it was chemistry, or that he/she didn’t match their ideal of The One. So they’ve ended up alone, still looking for that perfect soul mate. The renowned family psychiatrist Frank Pittman once said, “Nothing has produced more unhappiness than the concept of the soul mate.”
Having been a psychologist for more than 25 years, and married to one guy for the same long stretch, I can tell you that there are no perfect partners out there. Not me. Not my husband. Not any of my many clients, friends, or family members. Lasting love is a hard-won battle of personal discipline, compromise, dedication, and commitment.

Want  a soul mate ? Be one to your mate., P