So says Fox News: “Marriage is a great anti-poverty program. So why does government discourage it?”
There’s a lot in this article, I’ll simple excerpt it and let you pour coffee and dig in yourself:
- “According to the Brookings Institution, the U.S. would have 25 percent less poverty today if we had the marriage rates we had in 1970 (79 percent of U.S. adults were married then, versus only 52 percent today). Cutting the poverty rate by a quarter would of course benefit individuals who escape poverty, and also benefit government and taxpayers by cutting the amount that needs to be spent on assistance to poor people.”
More good reading:
If your spouse has a ‘love language of…’, what can you do from column ‘b’ and ‘c’? What alternatives can you use instead of ‘d’?
the highest percentage of people ages 20 to 28 who consider themselves “highly satisfied” with their lives are married, as opposed to single or cohabiting. What’s more, the largest number of women who described their marriage as “very happy” tied the knot when they were 24 to 26. A 2010 study found that “the greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25.”……..
I found an excerpt from the below linked article to be nearly self evident. A wedding I attended in recent years had the biggest/ fanciest reception I’d ever been too. $10k more than I paid for my first house was the drop if I recall, country club, live band, exquisite desserts in the affair. I remember distinctly sensing at the time the effort in planning their party, but how much on their marital purpose? I also recall a couple humble weddings I attended at about the same time. Church reception, modest decor, etc, the focus was necessarily on the couple. That couple had and still does share a ministry, and now a new baby! The ‘fancy wedding couple’ ? They had many more fun gatherings I hear but have sadly gone separate ways.
While diamonds may be forever, marriages that begin with expensive bling are less likely to last long term, according to a recent study from Emory University. In the research, two economics professors polled 3,000 American adults who were presently or had previously been married, discovering that individuals who spend serious cash on engagement rings and the wedding ceremony were more likely to get divorced.
This week I heard someone note how their criteria for a mate was ‘money’. Another comment was ‘I should divorce, what do I need (him/her) for ?’
- Really? These folks might want to dwell on some Ecclesiastes wisdom. Even the Buddhist background from which they come can appreciate such wise ponderings from Solomon.
While marriages isn’t always what its ‘quacked up to be’, don’t ‘duck your responsibilities’.
What do you look for in a partner. A life ministry supporter? If you are seeking ‘what will that person add to me’ you may be better to consider ‘how can we add to each others service for the Kingdom’. Christ brought a gift of sacrifice to his bride (us, the church body). Thus, a gift of sacrifice to your bride as bridegroom, a spirit of acceptance as bride.
“Love is a commitment that will be tested … force you to make some very difficult choices.
… that demands that you deal with
- your lust,
- your greed,
- your pride,
- your power,
- your desire to control,
- your temper,
- your patience,
- and every area of temptation that the Bible clearly talks about. It demands the quality of commitment that Jesus demonstrates in His relationship to us.”
“The important thing to bear in mind is that you must face your willingness to die to yourself before you choose to walk down the aisle. Is this person the one for whom you are willing to die daily? Is this person to whom you say, “I do” also the one for whom you are willing to say, “No, I don’t” to everybody else? Be assured that marriage will cost you everything.”
“Chivalry in love has nothing to do with the sweetness of the appearance. It has everything to do with the tenderness of a heart determined to serve. You must not act under the impetus of charm, but out of a commitment to make someone’s life the joy you want it to be.”
“The apostle Paul says in Romans 13:14, “Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” In other words, do not put yourself in a place where you can fall.”
“Marriage brings together not just a man and his wife but their children and their struggles. To suddenly drop the partner who has carried that load with you along life’s journey for all these years for someone with no strings or worries attached is cruel. Marriage is not a commercial enterprise in which you replace a car you have tired of with another one.”
“Become a man or woman of prayer…Let your heart and mind be kept close to the principal calling of your life, … to hunger and thirst after God and His righteousness…
“To the young woman I say, This is the moment in your life when he who is wooing you will be at his kindest. And if you do not see kindness in the man you are dating, beware! For the partnership you are looking for will be nourished and nurtured only on the basis of a love that is not arrogant or prideful, but kind.”
“Many pray for the right partner but cease to pray for the right union–that they be one as Jesus and the Father are one..”
“In the early days of marriage, joy precedes the act. Tragically, as the years go by joy can be severed from the act until finally, the act itself is no more. This ought not to be. Over time it is the companionship that brings joy, and service is the natural outworking of the joy of commitment. Failure to act kills it.” s
“Think long and hard whether you have reached that mature stage of selflessness for this one you think you love so much. The love you enjoy will be the best thing that ever happened to you, but it will cost you your independence…. The responsibility of marriage and family demands time, and when we cheat on that, we rob ourselves of the investment returns.”
“Let your devotional life be the beacon that guides you through the tough terrain you will face.”
“Just as strength is a man’s charm, so charm is a woman’s strength.”
“That is what a well-guarded prayer life can reveal about us, that our trust is not in ourselves but in seeking God’s strength for what we do.
“Love is as much a question of the will as it is of the emotion. And if you will (choose) to love somebody, you can. – Ravi Zacharias’ brother”
Video series on moving from courtship to marriage. Higly recommend.