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Marry someone with money. Really ?

This week I heard someone note how their criteria for a mate was ‘money’. Another comment was ‘I should divorce, what do I need (him/her) for ?’Anibal-Affiliates-RealtyNetWorth-LakeShannon-boys-and-girls-agree-ducks-on-the-lake

  • Really? These folks might want to dwell on some Ecclesiastes wisdom. Even the Buddhist background from which they come can appreciate such wise ponderings from Solomon.

While marriages isn’t always what its ‘quacked up to be’, don’t ‘duck your responsibilities’.

What do you look for in a partner. A life ministry supporter? If you are seeking ‘what will that person add to me’ you may be better to consider ‘how can we add to each others service for the Kingdom’. Christ brought a gift of sacrifice to his bride (us, the church body). Thus, a gift of sacrifice to your bride as bridegroom, a spirit of acceptance as bride.



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I Isaac take thee Rebekah – Ravi Zacharias quotes on marriages

“Love is a commitment that will be tested … force you to make some very difficult choices. everyone-thinks-their-situation-is-unique-realty-networth-portfolio-brokerage-alloverusa-7… that demands that you deal with
  • your lust,
  • your greed,
  • your pride,
  • your power,
  • your desire to control,
  • your temper,
  • your patience,
  • and every area of temptation that the Bible clearly talks about. It demands the quality of commitment that Jesus demonstrates in His relationship to us.”
“The important thing to bear in mind is that you must face your willingness to die to yourself before you choose to walk down the aisle. Is this person the one for whom you are willing to die daily? Is this person to whom you say, “I do” also the one for whom you are willing to say, “No, I don’t” to everybody else? Be assured that marriage will cost you everything.”
“Chivalry in love has nothing to do with the sweetness of the appearance. It has everything to do with the tenderness of a heart determined to serve. You must not act under the impetus of charm, but out of a commitment to make someone’s life the joy you want it to be.”
“The apostle Paul says in Romans 13:14, “Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” In other words, do not put yourself in a place where you can fall.”
“Marriage brings together not just a man and his wife but their children and their struggles. To suddenly drop the partner who has carried that load with you along life’s journey for all these years for someone with no strings or worries attached is cruel. Marriage is not a commercial enterprise in which you replace a car you have tired of with another one.”
“Become a man or woman of prayer…Let your heart and mind be kept close to the principal calling of your life, … to hunger and thirst after God and His righteousness…
“To the young woman I say, This is the moment in your life when he who is wooing you will be at his kindest. And if you do not see kindness in the man you are dating, beware! For the partnership you are looking for will be nourished and nurtured only on the basis of a love that is not arrogant or prideful, but kind.”
“Many pray for the right partner but cease to pray for the right union–that they be one as Jesus and the Father are one..”
“In the early days of marriage, joy precedes the act. Tragically, as the years go by joy can be severed from the act until finally, the act itself is no more. This ought not to be. Over time it is the companionship that brings joy, and service is the natural outworking of the joy of commitment. Failure to act kills it.”  s
“Think long and hard whether you have reached that mature stage of selflessness for this one you think you love so much. The love you enjoy will be the best thing that ever happened to you, but it will cost you your independence…. The responsibility of marriage and family demands time, and when we cheat on that, we rob ourselves of the investment returns.”

“Let your devotional life be the beacon that guides you through the tough terrain you will face.”

“Just as strength is a man’s charm, so charm is a woman’s strength.”

“That is what a well-guarded prayer life can reveal about us, that our trust is not in ourselves but in seeking God’s strength for what we do.

“Love is as much a question of the will as it is of the emotion. And if you will (choose) to love somebody, you can. – Ravi Zacharias’ brother”


Video series on moving from courtship to marriage. Higly recommend.

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We’ll he told that …”First go to..”

Believe everything you hear and most of what you see (or not).do-you-believe-everything-you-hear-and-what-you-see-alloverusa


Fake news is all the rage. But what about ‘gossip’, what about ‘first go to the person…’ ?

What effect does it have on your marriage when you introduce ‘well so `n so says that …’ or ‘you know what ____ thinks ?’ I usually say ‘I’m less interested in ‘what they think’ and more interested in if I start and end with The Word when I act. Everything else will have to take care of itself.

Yes, the photo is a mock up, a fake.

A great church friend says: “Be careful what you tell others about your husband (wife), it may the the only picture others have to understand who your spouse is.” My  paraphrase is, every time you tell me about another person and the content of what you tell me, from this I know how you represent me to others.

Blessings.

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Mentoring Marriages – Meetup

Come share whats in ‘your toolbox’. 42b

We meet at members homes and their churches each week during the school year and 1x/month during the summer.

2 hr & 15 min sessions go like this: Each segment is optional and you are free to come/go as you are able.

  • 6:15-6:30  Snacks to pass.
    • Hosts do not bring anything. Others, when you confirm attendance specify ‘healthy snack/ drink/ unhealthy snack/ plates, naps, cups’ so others can pick something else.
  • 6:30 – 7:15 Open presentations.
    • Optional participation – In the round share the resource/ book/ tip you have. Be as creative as you’d like. Photos from ‘way back when’ ?, a couple in need that we can help, an activity, place or group you’ve found that would support marital efforts.
    • Also will include ‘special invited guests’ – who would you like to nominate ?
  • 7:30 – 8:30 Curriculum.
    • 12 weeks starting 2/14: We are currently going thru http://www.marriagementoring.com/ material in a structured ‘facilitator with your feedback & input’ format.

Tuesday evenings starting 2/21.   



Further info: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/strengthening-your-marriage/mentoring-101/marriage-mentoring

What Is a Marriage Mentor?

“What I need is someone to talk to who has walked down the path ….” … offer the distance and objectivity that a mentor gives. A mentor is not:

  • a mother or father.
  • a friend.
  • “on call” for every little crisis.
  • a know-it-all.
  • committed long-term.
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What is repentance ? Just saying ‘sorry’ ?

 

how-to-become-a-christian-7-7281Everyone reading this will face God one day. Scriptural reality will be that sin requires repentance after requesting forgiveness. Its naive if you think this doesn’t apply to you. It applies to me, it applies to everyone. But you deal with self, God deals with others (truth alert: we will be judged by the standard we judge.)

Note I’ve included scripture so you can take God’s word for it. So yes, repentance actually requires a turning.

Are you following God’s plan after you’ve seen how sin affects your life, more importantly the lives of others about you, and MOST importantly your submission and admiration to the Lordship of Christ in your life ? How do you facilitate ‘change’ for troublesome behaviors ?

https://familyshare.com/1987/faith/how-to-repent-and-change-your-behavior


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